Tantra is not teaching sexuality. It is simply saying that sex can be a source of bliss, that sex is ok and normal. And once you know that bliss, you can go further because now you are grounded in reality. One is not to remain with sex forever, but you can use sex as a jumping point. That is what tantra means: You can use sex as a jumping point. Once you have known the ecstasy of sex, you can understand what mystics have been talking about – a greater orgasm, a cosmic orgasm.
In human life the sex act is the only act when you come to feel a non-duality, in which you come to feel a deep oneness where the past disappears, the future disappears and only the present moment – the only real moment – remains. So all those mystics who have really known oneness with the Divine, oneness with Existence itself, they have always used sexual terms and symbols for their experience to express it. Sex is just the beginning, not the end. But if you miss the beginning, you will miss the end also, and you cannot escape the beginning to reach the end.
Tantra says take life naturally; do not be unreal. Sex is there as a deep possibility, a great potentiality. Use it! And what is wrong in being happy in it when used?
Tantra says be real, be authentic to yourself. Your happiness is not a bad thing, it is good. It is not a sin! Only sadness is a sin. Only to be miserable is a sin. To be happy is a virtue because a happy person will not create unhappiness for others. Only a happy person can be a ground for others′ happiness.
Tantra is neither moral nor immoral, it is basically a science. It looks at you, at what you are. It means that tantra is not trying to transform you, but it actually does transform you through reality. Science first tries to know what is real – what reality is, what the real is. Once the real is known it can be transformed.
Tantra is science. Tantra says first know what the reality is, what man is, and don′t create values and don′t create ideals right now: first know what is. Do not think of the “ought“, just think of the “is.” Once the “what is” is known, then you change it. Then you have the secret.
Once you know that secret you can transcend it because, really, in a deep sexual orgasm it is not sex which gives you bliss, it is something else. Sex is just a situation. Something else is giving you the euphoria, the ecstasy.
That something else can be divided into three elements. But when I speak about those elements, do not think that you can understand them just from my words. They must become part of your experience. As concepts they are useless. Because of three basic elements in sex you come to a blissful moment.
First, timelessness: you transcend time completely. There is no time. You forget time completely; time ceases for you. Not that time ceases, it ceases for you; you are not in it. There is no past, no future. In this very moment, here and now, the whole existence is concentrated. This moment becomes the only real moment. If you can make this moment the only real moment without sex, then there is no need of sex. Through meditation, it happens.
Second, in sex for the first time you lose your ego, you become egoless. So all those who are very much egoistic, they are all always against sex, because in sex they have to lose their egos. You are not, nor is there the other. You and your beloved are both lost into something else. A new reality evolves; a new unit comes into existence in which the old two are lost – completely lost. The ego is afraid. You are no more there. If without sex you can come to a moment when you are not, then there is no need of it.
And thirdly, in sex you are natural for the first time. The unreal is lost, the faces, the facades are lost; the society, the culture, the civilization, is lost. You are a part of nature. As trees are, as animals are, as stars are, you are a part of nature. You are in a greater something – the cosmos. You are floating in it – being taken by the current.
Ignorance cannot help you towards transcendence, it can only help you towards hypocrisy.