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If you are having some trouble standing in your worth and speaking up for yourself, you are most likely experiencing a blockage in your Solar Plexus Chakra and the corresponding Throat Chakra. When you Honor yourself, your life starts to change. When you choose what is best for you in any given situation, you will feel the difference.
Here are some simple tips for the 3rd Chakra-Solar Plexus to follow.

Wearing yellow clothing, eating lots of yellow foods and working with the solar plexus helps you stand in your self-worth.  Some Affirmations would be:

I am worthy. I am worthy of so much more!!! I am worthy of ALL the beauty kindness love and abundance there is! My inner strength is radiant.  I am strong, vibrant and confident. I am powerful beyond measure.

But you ultimately, have to believe this in your heart. So keep on, keep going until you feel and see the changes.

The “Sweet Spot” Heart Activation, is a channeled session which helps open the Heart Chakra which is the connector between the lower and upper Chakras. This Activation will also, help with your  Solar Plexus and Throat Chakras both being on each side of the Heart. You receive, what you need ~

Spiritual Life Coaching and Energy Healing services available.


“LOVE is Not a relationship, love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues– it is a continuum.

And why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? Because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a secure. You are in love with a woman or a man and immediately you start thinking of getting married. Make it a legal contract. Why? How does the law come into love? The law comes into love because love is not there. It is only a fantasy, and you know the fantasy will disappear. Before it disappears settle down, before it disappears do something so it becomes impossible to separate.

If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. And there are a few flowers of love which bloom only after long intimacies. There are seasonal flowers too; within six weeks they are there, in the sun, but within six weeks again they are gone forever. There are flowers that take years to come, and there are flowers that take many years to come. The longer it takes, the deeper it goes. But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment, eye to eye, heart to heart and being to being. It has to be understood, not said.

Forget relationships and learn how to relate. Relating means you are always starting, you are continuously trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other’s personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled. That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness.

And if you relate, and don’t reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring him, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation. Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful.”

Venu Pillai

LIFE COACHING: Life is a flux

Mind is always afraid of the unknown

“Life is unknown, unpredictable, and your mind is very narrow, it wants to live in the known, in the predictable. Mind is always afraid of the unknown. There is a reason: it is because mind consists of the known. Whatsoever you have known, experienced, learned, mind consists of that. The unknown is not part of the mind. The mind is always afraid of the unknown, the unknown will disturb the mind, so the mind is closed for the unknown. It lives in its routine, it lives in a pattern. It moves in particular grooves, known grooves. It goes on moving, moving, just like a gramophone record. It is afraid to move into the unknown.

Life is always moving into the unknown, and you are afraid. You want life to go according to your mind, according to the known, but life cannot follow you. It always moves into the unknown. That is why we are afraid of life, and whenever we get any chance we try to kill life, we try to fix it. Life is a flux.”

Venu Pillai


We experience grief in losing someone or something that has become part of our life: a beloved partner or friend, an animal, a life situation, security, our work, physical abilities or health. Grief happens in all situations in which we are forced to confront the reality that we don´t have full control of many aspects of our being here.  Grief is probably the deepest emotional experience of our life, because it destroys many of our illusions and confronts us with a basic reality of this life: that there is no lasting security, and that on this plane we have to let go of everything, including the people we love deeply, even our accomplishments and material possessions, and our unconscious belief that we can postpone our fulfillment or our love into the future.

Grief encompasses many different emotions and energies: Sadness, rage, depression, loneliness, helplessness, fear, resignation, vulnerability, love, forgiveness, letting go, acceptance, surrender and peace.  Grief is a universal and deeply human experience that guides us towards inner maturity and compassion, if we understand it and open to the pain and to all that forces us to go beyond the barriers of the known into the vastness of the human heart and the depths of consciousness.  Repressed or rationalized grief can make one depressed, lonely or even very sick. Many terminal illnesses ultimately arise because of deep unsolved grief. Unresolved grief leads to an unconscious belief that similar life situations will arise and again. We may feel view ourselves as a victim and suffer from the idea that life does not offer us the happiness that we expect. 

Grief points towards the truth that the source of joy and love is not to be found at the surface.


Venu Pillai

There is no such thing as peace of mind


Peace of mind is basically impossible. Peace happens only when mind is not. It is not peace of mind; it is peace beyond mind.

Mind is muddy; all kinds of relevant and irrelevant thoughts are jumbled there. It is a crowd, with so many fragments fighting with each other that you can call it a battleground. Mind cannot be at peace. But you can go beyond mind because you are not the mind. You can transcend and then there is peace, there is beauty, there is bliss, and all that you have always dreamt about but have had no experience of…

The watcher is always above the mind. The watcher is never part of the mind.

The mind is just like a TV screen on which thoughts, dreams, imaginations, projections, desires, and a thousand and one things go on passing. The watcher is not on the screen, he is sitting in the movie hall. But the problem arises when the watcher becomes identified with something on the movie screen…

It is your identification with thoughts that is creating the confusion: it brings you down into the mind; otherwise your watcher is far above it. And to get centered in your watching is the only way for peace.

There is no such thing as “peace of mind”.

Venu Pillai

HEALTH: Depression is a Blessing


Whenever you are depressed, wait for the moment that the depression goes. Nothing lasts forever; the depression will go. And when it leaves you, wait – be aware and alert – because after the depression, after the night, there will be a dawn and the sun will rise. If you can be alert in that moment. you will he happy that you were depressed. You will be grateful that you are depressed because only through your depression was this mint of happiness possible.

But what do we do? We move in an infinite regression We get depressed. Then we get depressed because of the depression: a second depression follows. If you are depressed. that′s okay! – nothing is wrong in it. It is beautiful because through it you will learn and mature. But then you feel badly. “Why do I get depressed? I should not get depressed.” Then you start fighting with the depression. The first depression is good, but the second depression is unreal. And this unreal depression will cloud your mind. You will miss the moment that would have followed the real depression.

When depressed, be depressed. Simply be depressed. Don′t get depressed about your depression. Don′t fight it, don′t create any diversion, don′t force it to go. Just allow it to happen; it will go by itself. Life is a flux; nothing remains the same. You are not needed; the river moves by itself, you don′t have to push it. If you are trying to push it, its simply foolish. The river flows by itself. Allow it to flow.

When depression is there, allow it to be. Don′t get depressed about it. If you want to remove it sooner, you will get depressed. If you fight it, you will create a secondary depression that is dangerous. The first depression is beautiful, it is natural. The second depression is your own. It is fabricated. Then you will move in mental grooves. They are infinite.

If you get depressed, be happy that you are depressed and allow the depression to be. Then suddenly the depression will disappear and there will be a breakthrough. No clouds will be there and the sky will be clear. For a single moment, heaven opens for you. If you are not depressed about your depression you can contact, you can commune, you can enter this heavenly gate. And once you know it, you have learned one of the ultimate laws of life: that life uses the opposite as a teacher, as a back-ground.


The Power is Within You

10 Power Thoughts for a More Rewarding Life

By Louise Hay

 I choose to feel good about myself each day. Every morning I remind myself that I can make the choice to feel good. This is a new habit for me to cultivate.

I am always presented with new and wonderful opportunities. I flow with what is happening in the moment.

Love is the miracle cure. Loving myself works miracles in my life.

I am the creative power in my world. I express myself creatively as much as possible.

Good now flows in my life from expected and unexpected channels.

My heart is open. I am willing to release all resistance.

I am unlimited in my own ability to create the good in my life.

I keep my thoughts centered on what I wish to experience.

Life created me to be fulfilled. I now release all expectations, and I know that I am taken care of.

My joyful thoughts create my joyful world.






“Just give them the environment to grow” and watch them start to flow!  Don’t try to control them or manipulate them and making demands of them.  They are souls – just little people, to love and express.  Let them be.  They only need your love, some guidance and your good example.  Do not project your fears and insecurities onto them.  With your nurturing, love and time, you will see them sprouting on their own with much imagination, gifts and talents.  There is much pleasure coming to you when you enjoy children. Pretty soon you will realize you have established a great solid foundation that will follow throughout life.  Oh of course, there will be the usual issues that come up along the way, however you will already be in a better position to deal with these things and to help your child through their own life experiences.








With your “Action”, comes your happiness!  As they say, right foot left foot if you ever want to get anywhere.  It is the same with the joy and happiness in your life.  You must make an effort,   The first action you must take, is the one to make a decision.  Everything always, begins with a decision to say yes. So make the decision to  be happy first.  So, just say yes!  And yes, it is that easy.  Once, you have made that great decision, you must take further action.  Set your intentions, to have a great day.  Or relate it to even smaller events going on with you if you feel the need to start smaller with like having a good morning workout or a good drive to work etc.  Then on to the next part of your day, setting the next intention.  You can even take action for a good nights sleep and to wake up in a good mood with this action of setting intentions before you go to bed. But you must make a conscious effort to set the intention.  With this action, lies your happiness.  The action of the decision and the followup with your conscious set intentions, to be happy.  As you retrain your mind, it will get easier and then ultimately you will not need this.  You’ll be able to wake up happy and have a great day!


Contact: Holly Miller for further healing and next available appointment 909-248-4790