Since Ivy died, it seems that I am looking through a completely different set of lenses.  I do not know when, or how, this transition occurred but I do not see things the way I used to.  A changing perspective has made me slow down and given me more chances for joy.

I find myself having more compassion in situations where I, maybe, did not show the most compassion before.  I now understand that no matter how someone looks and acts on the outside, they may not have corresponding feelings on the inside.  They may be fighting a battle that no one knows about.  Be kind, always, even when it's hard.

I have changed my perspective on situations that are out of my control.  Before Ivy died, there would be situations, out of my control, that would take so much joy away from me.  I have found that I now spend more time looking for the positive in each experience or event that happens.

  • Weather – I have, literally, no control over snowfall, and I will admit that I do not especially love the snow, however, watching Wrigley’s face light up when she gets to play in the snow, makes my heart smile.
  • Traffic - I can be annoyed that I am traveling during rush hour, or I can crank the radio and listen to my favorite music for a few extra minutes during my day.

When everything seems out of control, I have found that I spend more time focusing on the things that I can control.

  • What I eat.
  • My sleep routine.
  • How I speak to myself.
  • The boundaries I set.
  • My social media usage.

Today, I challenge you to slow down and look past those things that are out of your control, and towards those things that are in your control.  I can almost guarantee you will find more fulfillment in your life if you can do this.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, declares the Lord.  For as my heavens are higher than the earth, so My ways are higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.  Isaiah 55: 8-9

Fly high, dragonfly!


Peace and love,